Enjoy a Selfless Nurturing Massage for the Back

Enjoy a Selfless Nurturing Massage for the Back; personal tool for you 

How to connect most effectively with your partner in a loving manner that is centered on selflessness. The idea of a Selfless Nurturing Massage is that it is all about the individual you are performing the massage on.  The Selfless aspect is that you should not expect anything in return, so when you finish massaging your partner don’t say “my turn”.  The Nurturing aspect is your touch will nurture your partner and it will also nurture yourself in the fact that you are taking care of the one you love.  If your partners does return the experience back to you fantastic but DO NOT EXPECT IT. 

The massaging is about enjoying the experience and connecting on an emotional and physical level with your partner. If you are enjoying giving the massage, your partner will enjoy the massage even more.  If you are tense or stressed out and thinking too much about whether you are doing the massage strokes correctly, then that tension will translate through your hands during the massage. This is called transference.  The body is extremely sensitive and will pick up on any subtle vibrations, so make sure you are relaxed!  Remember, your partner is not going to expect you to be a professional, so don’t worry perfection.  Come visit us for a Romance Couple’s Massage when you want the pros taking care of both of you at the same time. 

If you are able, create a relaxing atmosphere with low lighting, soft instrumental music – no vocals because they tend to be distracting and minimal distractions.  If using massage oil, warm the massage oil by placing the bottle in a bowl of warm water or pour the oil into your hands and rub your palms together to warm it up.  Spread the oil over the back with your hands with a light stroke this is called effleurage.  The oil will allow you to glide; make circular motions with a slightly stronger pressure with the heel of your hand or thumb.  You can alternate hands and move alongside the spine but NEVER go over the spine with pressure.  Next, apply pressure over the shoulder blades and down the sides of their waist.  At this point, you can also use the sides of your palms, the flat of your palm, the tips of your fingers, and you can also ball your hand into a fist and gently push into his back.  Note, not with your knuckles, but with the flat part of your fist, working in circles again.  Encourage your partner to communicate and let you know what is the best pressure and location for them. 




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